There is no one way to have sex. Just like snowflakes, no two people are alike. Sometimes, men forget this little nugget—they think because they’ve tried a certain skill with one woman and she loved it, all other women will have the same reaction. That’s usually not the case. Understanding your partners body is usually the first steps to pleasing them. But more often than not, many men tend to focus a little bit too much on their own pleasure, without paying attention to what makes the women tick. We asked women to share some of the things men do during sex that needs to stop and these were their thoughts.
Anonymous
I have not had a lot of boyfriends but I recently got engaged to my fiancée. He loves blowjobs a lot. So he always asks for one when things get heated in the bedroom. I don’t mind giving him a blow job, but I really hate the fact that I always get choked in the name of “swallow it all”. I get that they want you to take them in completely, but using your hand to control my head to the point where I’m gagging. Abeg!
Toun
A lot of guys know that the clit is sensitive to touch, so I guess they assume that rubbing it hard makes things more enjoyable. It doesn’t. That shit is so sensitive, at some point, it’s just really painful. Be gentle! That you want to get me aroused doesn’t mean that you should rub my clit like you’re trying to set firewood on fire.
Agatha
Just like men get turned on when I moan, I love to hear that deep groan in my ears. When I’m hitting you right, I wanna hear it! When you’re going over the top and are about to cum, I want to hear it! When you’re losing control of yourself, I want to freaking hear it!! It turns me on more than they know. But the men I’ve been with annoyingly hold in that moan. So frustrating!
Anonymous
Some men think they know what I want better than I do. They don’t listen to anything I say. They are only focused on their pleasure and what they believe I want.
Nike
Immediately after sex, my boyfriend picks up his phone. WO! Did we not just do the do? So we fuck and you toss me to one side? Like I’m a sex toy you can use and dumb. I want communication. Let’s talk about what just happened or anything at all. AH AH. I want to talk after we fuck not to see you press your phone. So annoying!
