A lot of women are attracted to older men and a lot of them enjoy having sex with older people. Many people call this a daddy kink. There are a lot of myths and facts surrounding the term. Let’s start with what it’s not. It’s not the result of having daddy issues. Having a daddy kink doesn’t necessarily mean you have daddy issues (although having daddy issues could cause you to have a daddy kink). Some people just have a preference. Having a daddy kink or being involved with men who like submissive partners doesn’t make them a paedophile or make either of you wrong. As long as you’re both consenting adults, the roles you play in bed are nobody’s business but yours. So what exactly is a daddy kink?
What Is A Daddy Kink?
A daddy kink is a like or love for engaging in sexual activities with someone, usually a man significantly older than you. It is also a like or love for calling someone daddy during sex. It can also be used to describe the feeling of people who enjoy being dominated by a man during sex. Daddy kinks hardly ever stand on their own. They usually fall under two kinks; BDSM and/or age play.
BDSM(Bondage, Dominance, Submission, Masochism)
BDSM is a term used to describe aspects of sex that involve dominance, submission, and control. The practice typically involves one partner taking on a more dominant role during sex, while the other is more submissive- WEBMD.
Some people who have daddy kinks are into being completely dominated by another person during sexual inter and/or outercourse. This particular type of BDSM is usually called DD/LG (Daddy Dom/Little Girl).
Age Play
Ageplaying involves treating the sub like they are a certain age, usually younger, anywhere from toddler to teenager. As a result, the sub treats their Dom like their Daddy. He takes on the paternal role of protector and caregiver and administers discipline and training when needed. The sub becomes his “little” and relies on him emotionally, physically, and even sexually and sometimes financially- Ashley, BDSM expert and Guide. Having a daddy kink and being into age play is not the same thing but sometimes people’s daddy kink fall into the age play scenario and so these two kinks meet and are sometimes grouped together.
Signs You Possibly Have A Daddy Kink
- You have a strong attraction to older men.
- You like to be dominated.
- The idea of being called ‘little girl’ or ‘little boy’ turns you on.
- You like to be taken care of (babied).
- You enjoy roleplaying dom and sub roles.
Editor’s Note: Being attracted to or liking older men doesn’t mean you have inherent mental problems. It doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with you or that you have “issues”. It is simply a preference. Unless you’ve been diagnosed by a professional, do not assume that something as simple as your tastes in people means there’s something seriously wrong with you. You are not a gerontophile and your partner isn’t a paedophile(as long as you’re not a child/underage).