23 Signs Your Ex Is Testing You And How You Can Deal With It

Sometimes relationships end and without much break to take things in, your ex is low-key back in the picture and they don’t seem to be going anywhere. It makes you start wondering if your ex is testing the waters to see if things can go back to how they were. It’s normal to feel anxious when you think your ex is testing you, especially if you have been dating for a long time. Are they trying to see how much you have changed? Are these signs your ex is trying to test your patience? You can’t really know until you have a conversation with your ex.

There are a multitude of reasons why your ex could be testing you. They could be testing you because they’ve seen you with someone else or they derive some sick joy from tormenting you or they want to genuinely reconnect. It could also be because they want to see if you’ve changed or if you’re worse off without them. More often than not, it’s for a negative reason you’re being tested. 

Here are 23 signs that could help you spot if you’re being tested: 

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Signs Your Ex Is Testing You

1. They seek out your reaction by jumping to conclusions without waiting for you to confirm. 

2. Anytime they see you or talk to you they remind you of the good old days.

3. They want you to continue to emotionally support them.

4. They look for ways to spend the night with you. 

5. They are nowhere to be found after the breakup. 

6. They seek constantly seek out your help.

7. They try to dictate to you.

8. They keep pushing you to your limits. 

9. They constantly go through your social media to stalk you. 

10. They tend to play mind games with you. 

11. They constantly victimize themselves. 

12. They look for ways to make you Jealous.

13. They try to know what is happening in your current relationship.

14. They try to sabotage your current relationship.

15. They keep bringing up ‘your history with each other,’ like it matters. 

16. They ghost you.

17. They stalk your friends and try to get information about you from them.  

18. They come to places where they know you might be .

19. They’re trying to be friends with you and play with you. 

20. They text you with a million different numbers.

21. They expect you to remain loyal to them. 

22. They always view all your stories on Instagram.

23. They straight up ask you if you want them back.

What To Do If You Think You’re Being Tested

The first step to dealing with an ex is to ignore them. When someone constantly tests you, turn the other way and pay them no mind. Some people who still have feelings for their ex may find it difficult to completely ignore them; however, they can go see a counsellor or try new projects and hobbies to keep themselves busy. It is important to know that most of the time your ex is testing you because they want to feel better about themselves and feel some sort of importance after the breakup or after you rejected them. You should move forward with yourself especially if you do not want them back. Focus on yourself and healing your heart.