The prospect of sex can be anxiety-inducing for all but the ‘picture-perfect, society-accepted body-sized women. Opening yourself up to be possibly critiqued or mocked is scary as hell. Allowing yourself to be vulnerable like that can be frightening for anyone. For women who don’t have bodies, society deems ‘right’ or ‘acceptable’, for plus-size women who aren’t largely considered sexy by society’s insane standards, sex can be one of the worst experiences they put themselves through.
However, despite society’s asinine standards, plus-size women are beautiful and they do enjoy sex just as much as any other person out there. When they push past their insecurities, what they do struggle with is sex positions. It can be difficult for anyone to find comfortable sex positions but even more so for women who aren’t worrying about just their comfort alone but may be worried about hurting their partner or their bellies getting in the way. Here are 6 sex positions that are perfect for the plus-size woman;
Randy Rider
This position is so steamy, it leaves both you and your man feeling hot and heavy. It’s the perfect position for spicing things up outside the bedroom.
How To Do It:
Let your man lie on a couch or a plus armchair. While backing him, ease onto his penis while your ass lands softly on his lap. He can then hold on to your waist and softly support you while you move in an upward or downward motion. Take things up a notch by sensually swaying your hips and have your man touch your clit while moving gently with you.
Side Spooning
This position increases intimacy as your lover is touching you constantly from his neck down. It can also make you feel vulnerable and protected because you are somewhat cocooned in your lover’s arms. Also, If you have a bit of a belly, you don’t have to worry about it getting in the way because most of the work is done from behind you. There’s lots of G-spot stimulation and it’s perfect for when you and your partner are in the mood but feel lazy.
How To Do It:
Your partner is behind you, facing your back, and you are both on your sides.
You raise your top leg to make room for him to glide in for slow-moving action. Your partner can reach around to stroke your clit or breasts.
Butterfly
This is one of the best positions for plus-size women. It allows for deeper penetration without a bigger belly getting in the way. Additionally, placing your legs on your partner’s shoulders may facilitate the occurrence of the G-spot and other genital pleasures.
How To Do It:
You lie on your back with your legs either in the air or resting against your partner’s chest to do the butterfly position. Your butt should be on the edge of the bed as you slide to the end of it. Your partner stands between your legs and penetrates you. Put a pillow beneath your hips if your height is uneven or if you need a better angle. The fact that you and your partner are facing each other makes this position one of the more personal ones. This enables more passionate kissing and intimacy.
Crab
This is a sweet and intimate position that allows you to feel loved and cared for. Also, you’re positioned mostly face down, so if you’re insecure about your belly, you don’t have to worry about your partner seeing it.
How To Do It:
You first lie on the bed on your stomach. Then you bend one leg while extending the other. Your partner bends his elbows beside your head which is turned in the same direction as your bent knee. He then crawls on top of you, sandwiching your stretched-out leg between his legs. To prevent you from being crushed under him, he must be able to sustain his weight. With a solid hand cushion, you will undoubtedly feel secure.
71 (Lazy Dog)
If your stomach protrudes and isn’t flat, this position is ideal for you. It enhances penetration, hits the G-spot, and allows you to feel your man freely.
How To Do It:
Curve into somewhat of a ball while lying on your side or front to expose your ass and vaginal opening. Where your legs bend is where your lover should kneel and enter you.
Deep Impact
This is excellent for deep penetration, as the name implies. It is also perfect if you would like to stimulate yourself while your partner watches as he pounds into you.
How To Do It:
You lie on your back like you’re in the missionary position. Your partner kneels and elevates your hips so that your butt rests on his thighs rather than resting on top of you. This should make penetration simpler because it pushes his penis closer to your vagina. If your legs are long enough, you can bend at the knees and let your feet lie flat on the bed while still keeping your feet against his chest or shoulders. You can also wrap your legs around him if you prefer that.